Adult-Only Vacation: Las Vegas

Did I mention that Husband and I are taking a little vacation without the children? We try to take at least one trip every year without the kids. This time it’s Las Vegas. We luh-huv Las Vegas. It’s the one place we can go (OK, there’s also Wine Country) and not think, “Wow! We should have brought the kids!”

When I tell people that Husband and I regularly go on vacation without the kids, they usually respond with, “You are so lucky!” or “That’s so great. You can really focus on each other.”

In reality, those observations are true, but also not true.

We are lucky, but we work for it. We couldn’t travel as much as we do if Husband didn’t travel as much as he does for work. For him, that means long work days and time away from family. For us it means disruption of the routine and time away from Daddy. But frequent flyer miles add up and it makes it easier for us to travel. We take advantage of that and feel we've definitely earned it.

As for the “focus on each other” part, well . . . much of our time is spent apart. Some people think that’s odd, but it’s not a big deal to us. The fact is, we don’t like to do the same things. He wants to golf, I want to spa. He wants to drive and see sites, I want to read and blog. He likes to be busy, I like to not be busy.

We know we’re different. We knew we were different when we married. We respect that we are different.

Neither one of us wants to be forced to spend a day doing something we don’t want to do just for the sake of being together. We’d rather spend the time doing what we want to do, then come together for dinner and drinks and discuss our different days.

We appreciate the time apart and the time together. Being allowed to do both--being apart and together--allows us to rejuvenate ourselves and our marriage.

We’re in Las Vegas right now, staying at Bellagio. He’ll be golfing while I spa at Paris. We’ll come together for dinner, drinks, and a show. And we’ll both be relaxed. Life is good.

Comments

[Christine]

Ahhhh, sounds wonderful! BTW, D is there too! Right. This. Minute. He's staying at Bally's on business. If you see him you might want to run the other way since he's out of gambling money.

[Jeana]

Fun! Hope you enjoy yourself, and your masseuse doesn't fall asleep again.

[green3]

Have fun! And btw, my kids totally loved Vegas. :) But we probably won't be taking the there again, as there are so many others places we need to get them to.

[Dana]

Oh, yeah! We do a little getaway every year, and spend at least part of the time apart: me at the spa, him at the nearest battleship/Civil War site/UFO crash site. Then dinner, a show and, you know, stuff.

And, excuse me, but you had a masseuse FALL ASLEEP? For cryin' out Pete! It's never happened to me, but I'm sure all my rolls and cellulite tax the poor gal's skillz to the max.

Have fun!

[We are THAT family]

I just a had a little weekender with my hubby. I went in search of the magic. Found it! I can be a good mommy/wife again!

[Jean]

We're going to Vegas in May for our 10th anniversary. The King himself is going to renew our vows, cause we're classy like that. I can't wait!

[New Diva on the Blog]

Oh to be at a spa. Have a wonderful time!

[Kellyn]

Spa...the magic words. Sounds lovely.

Vegas is fun, and a great place to go with the hubby. We were there last June (the best time to go...110 in the shade, dry heat my...)and had the best time.

We do a weekend along at least twice a year. It helps us reconnect in the crazy world we call life. It helps to remember why we are there in the first place.

Have a blast!

[Shalee]

Just remember that if you need a third party to spa with, you can ask me to go with you. I'll even get lost for your dinner/drinks catch-up. It's a win-win for everyone!

Have fun and enjoy your time apart/together.

[Mrs. Who]

I think it's really healthy for a husband and wife to spend some time apart on a vacation. I am often lying by the pool on a cruise while my husband is watching a movie in the room. But when we get together, we certainly enjoy spending time together.

[Headless Mom]

Sounds like the perfect mix. Enjoy your time filling up YOUR cup!

[Kristina]

Last week, my hubs and I took our first "alone" vacation since we were married -- 14 years ago!!! We, too, went to Vegas and had a ball! We rode The Deuce from one end of Vegas to the other and saw all the sites, lost a lot of money in the slots, drank a lot of free alcohol, and just thrived in each other's company! Have a great time!

Kristina

[Sonia]

I'd love to vacation separately, but hubby keeps tracking me down! He likes to spend time with me, the freak!

[Sarah (Real Life)]

That's a really balanced perspective. I hope you have a great time. (And can I just say that I am green with envy?)

[Jaime]

sounds like a lovely time away sort-of-together. have a great trip!

[Alana]

Sounds wonderful - I think it is great that you both are confident in your marriage and respect each others needs and interests. My husband and I are very different also - he would be happy as a clam on a mountain bike, while I would pull a chair up beside you for a "mani" and "pedi"! Have fun!

[Jenny from Chicago]

We spend four days at Disney every year...that is not what is so surprising. We do it just the two of us. We take the kiddos in December but in March or April almost every year we go just us two and have a ball.

Everybody makes their own deal on this marriage gig. It's all about what works for you.

[Rachel]

Blog idea:

I'm going to Vegas with my husband for the first time this spring, and since it sounds like you guys are experts, why don't you do an "All About Vegas" post? Places to stay, great restaurants, fun shows, etc...

[Chri]

We also do the same thing! Try to get away, just the two of us and we also go our own ways and meet up later! Sometimes we will spend an entire day together!

[Domestic Chicky]

How long will you be there? I will be staying at Caesar's this weekend to live blog an event there.

[Jill]

Oh how I wish I could get my husband to understand the value of together/separate vacationing. But then again, we haven't vacationed without the kids so never mind. Have fun spa-ing! **sigh**

[Barbara]

wow -- this sounds like a great vacation to me! I love the idea of taking separate vacations together. I don't know if I could get hubby to go along with the idea, but maybe if I suggested just a day or two of doing our own thing and a day (or two) of doing stuff we both want to do it could work. He really wants to do Vegas again -- its been years since our last trip there. You've got me thinking girl!

Hope you're having a great time. And I'd love to hear the masseuse story. Maybe you could reprise it? My daughter is a massage therapist and would probably get a kick out of it.

[Kari]

How awesome! Hubby and I are going to Las Vegas in May. It will be my first time...any tips or must-sees? I'm not a gambler at all, so I'm trying to find other things to do. Have a great vacation!

[Randall]

Sounds wonderful - hope it's a great trip!